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Manage your personal life

You can do everything right at work and manage yourself well there, but if your personal life is a mess, it will eventually turn everything else sour. What would it profit a leader to climb to the top of the organizational chart but lose a marriage or alienate the children? As someone who spent many years counseling people, I can tell you, no career success is worth it.

For years one of my definitions of success has been this: having those closest to me love and respect me the most. That is what is most important. I want the love and respect of my future wife, my children, and my grandchildren before I want the respect of anyone I work with. Don’t get me wrong. I want the people who work with me to respect me too, but not at the expense of my family. If I blow managing my self at home, then the negative impact will spill over into every area of my life, including work.

If you want to lead up, you must always lead yourself first. If you can’t, you have no credibility. I’ve found the following to be true:

* If I can’t lead myself, others won’t follow me.
* If I can’t lead myself, others won’t respect me.
* If I can’t lead myself, others won’t partner with me.

That applies whether the influence you desire to exert is on the people above you, beside you, or below you. The better you are at making sure you’re doing what you should be doing, the better chance you have for making an impact on others.

How well are you leading yourself?

Positive thinking is the most recommended

Positive thinking is not an easy thing to get like a raindrop from the sky. It is believed that it needs effort and skills to be able to achieve it. By start thinking positive you will place you self in a position that will allow you not only to manage your life better but it will also help you to raise your self-esteem and self-confidence.

What we think will affect to our behaviors actually our emotions, and our moods. So it is recommended to avail yourself with a positive space of thinking.

A moment of following to your self-esteem

Have you ever noticed that yourself  lack of somethings, do something not right, admit that you are a good student or hate yourself because of doing some mistakes? I do usually feel this way of thought too. Just spending some hours through the internet, I can get through to some ideas regarding to these above problems. It is called “Self-esteem” which means you, yourself, is important or unimportant as well as respectful or not being respectful.

Low self-esteem

Self-esteem is important in some ways but it can cause you in some reasons if it is lower than its normal. You may feel not good whenever you act any action. Let see below about what are the causes.

Self-hate: is characterised by feelings of anger and frustration about who you are and an inability to forgive yourself for even the smallest of mistakes. For example, I personally took an English exam for applying a scholarship. Whenever I took the efficiency exam, I never got a high score to reach the requirement. I feel hatred to myself. Why does my knowledge and capability is too slow and low like that?

Some people may talk out that Perfectionism make them more challenge and push them to

Wanna be very perfect?

be more competitive and try something new. It would be right or wrong; however, to me I thought that perfectionist is someone who lives with a constant sense of failure because their achievements, no matter how impressive, don’t ever feel quite good enough. I would say the drive to be perfect is one of the more destructive aspects of low self-esteem. What do you think? Maybe sometimes it is right or sometimes not!

Comparing yourself especially about your body or appearance to other people can lead to have an esteem to self-thought that you are not handsome or beautiful as people around you. This can lead to have a low self-esteem too.

Although I have mentioned a lot about bad effects and causes of having self-esteem lower above, I would say that possessing a high one is not that bad too. It can give you a nice and strong courage in doing something new. It lets you respect yourself, even when you make mistakes.

Confident

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