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Identify your mindset then!!!

You can fly!

Different people, Different mindsets!!! Totally agreed… Some people may do not know what is the type of their mindset is, me too. I just read a book called “You can fly” by Ismail Gafoor, I can note that there are simply 2 big kinds of mindset people are possessing now-Sarcastic and Abundant Mindset; which make people think differently on what they see and understand.

So now let’s go to find out yours; which between these 2 mindsets is yours! First let’s take a look at Sarcastic mindset-a bit pessimistic thought that an opportunity is so rare to happen because society around is too monopolized, so let’s immediately grab a chance. For example, people possessing sarcastic mindset always think that they have only one life, so don’t let it pass easily and fast.


Next is talking about Abundant mindset. It is about the optimistic mindset which lets people think that there are many chances in the world and they

Wait for next chance???

surely can grab those chance whenever they want. Like people waiting a bus, if they cannot catch a bus this time, sure they can get the next bus. Here is what such abundant mindset people they think of themselves.

There we go! See the differences? I can say that there is right or wrong mindset selected or mentioned; it is about the situation and context that people possessing those mindset in. Sometimes, if a real society is so sarcastic in opportunity, then I agreed that Sarcastic one is the best; however, if we are living i a freedom and full of opportunities, how come you limit and pressure yourself to hold that pessimistic thought dudes!!!

Can you now find out which one you possessing yet? I have a tip how you can identify it. Just simple simple strategy… Pay me a coffee then I will tell 😀

Win-Win is the best choice?

Which one you prefer?

“Win-Lose, Lose-Win, Lose-Lose, and Win-Win” which one you always use in your negotiation? your conflict solving in both work and family? Before you answer it, let me define it for you first.

Win-Lose/Lose Win: known as distributive bargaining. It’s based on an attempt to divide up an amount of resources, resulting in a win-lose situation. When choosing this strategy, one takes on an adversarial or competitive view.The focus is on achieving immediate goals, with little or no regard for building future relationships.

Win-Win: outcomes occur when each side of a dispute feels they have won. Since both sides benefit from such a scenario, any resolutions to the conflict are likely to be accepted voluntarily. The process of integrative bargaining aims to achieve, through cooperation, win-win outcomes.

Lose-Lose: means that all parties end up being worse off. An example of this would be a budget-cutting negotiation in which all parties lose money. In some lose-lose situations, all parties understand that losses are unavoidable and that they will be evenly distributed. In such situations, lose-lose outcomes can be preferable to win-lose outcomes because the distribution is at least considered to be fair (Encyclopedia of Conflict Resolution).

By seeing above definition, I think you can identify which one you always use in your problem solving skill and also understand well what are the result of each strategy.

Sometimes, you may think Win-Win is the best but make sure that you understand your context clearly before you judge which strategy is suitable in what situation or context.

Remember! All strategies are beneficial for us if you can get the right situation.

Is s/he the one your prefer to be your Mr. Ms. Right?

Is s/he perfect for you?

Actually, to define the word Mr./Ms. Right is not an easy way as define where is Left and where is Right side. I found out that some people get upset because they cannot find the right people for living with them forever. “I am looking forwards to see my Mr. Right not Mr. Wrongs!” said by a little girl, Ponika on Facebook social network. I totally agreed with what she said too since I am also looking for my Ms. Right. Just an easy definition [<Mr./Ms. Right is the perfect person you think you can be together with forever>by myself, Monycheat Hang (Karl)]and is it right to just sitting and waiting for your Mr./Mr. Right to appear and select you?

What does the perfectness of the person mean to you?

There is no fixed meaning of this word “Perfect person” and it is totally hard to make it fixed too. Some mentioned about Beauty, Wealthy, High education, Health, and other factors, but to my personal thought, we can define easily if you can set up your own criteria to identify how level is the perfectness you need. For example, if you think that your perfect person needs to be a millionaire, OK go for it! Just find the one who are rich, has millions dollars in bank account, has more than 10 Lamborghini, or else. Do not go for person who are beautiful/handsome or possess high education but poor. If you do so, DANG!!! it can help you define the kind of person easily and well.

Is it right to wait for your Mr./Ms. Right?

“Why do we have to wait? Instead of waiting to be chosen, why can’t we go out to find the right person? Why don’t most of us prefer to be in a position of the chooser than the chosen?” by Mr. Tep Livina and I am totally agreed with these questions! It is not the way to just sit and wait to see that guy/girl.

It’s said that learning is a process, not a destination. Personally, I find that relationship is also a process. This implies that one’s got to make some mistakes while staying in the process. Some people are lucky that they make or meet with few mistakes, but some aren’t because they make countless mistakes before they can find the right answer.

Last but not least, it is a hard to define and find who is your Mr./Ms. Right and whether s/he is your perfect person or not unless you set your criteria to select and identify that person. Also, it is recommended to be a choser not chosen and just sit and wait for that person. Go for him/her and learn from each other is s/he hit your criteria yet.

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