Archive for June 20th, 2012

Love? Make Easy-Keep Hard

Before we come up into the right real situation, lemme share you with a good story I got from yahoo question and answer site as in the following:

A student asked his teacher, “What is love?”

The teacher said, “to get an answer to your question, go to the wheat field, get the biggest wheat grain, and come back, but the rule is – you can go through the field only once and cannot turn back to pick.”

The student went to the field, gone through the first row, and saw one big wheat grain. But he wondered….may be there is a bigger one elsewhere.
Then he saw a bigger one. But may be there is a still bigger one waiting….
Later, when he finished more than half of the wheat field, he realized that the wheat grains there are not as big as the previous one. He realized that he has missed the biggest one.

So, he ended up the search and went back empty hand. The teacher told him, “That is love! If you keep looking for a better one, you could have missed the right person!”

“Then, what is marriage?” the student asked.

A lot but hard to select

The teacher said, “to get an answer to your question, go to the same wheat field again, and get the biggest corn. Same rule as before!”

The student went to the corn field. This time he is very careful not to repeat the previous mistake. When he reached the middle of the field, he picked one good sized corn. He felt satisfied, and came back.

The teacher told him, “You have looked for one that is just good for you, instead of coming back empty handed. That is marriage!”

“What is Friendship then?” the student asked.

The teacher said, “in order to answer that question, go to the same field and choose the wheat that appears nice to you. The rule is the same.”

The student went to the field. This time he is very careful. As he started scanning the field, he has picked many grains that suited his taste and come back to the teacher.

The teacher told him, “You looked for one that is just nice for you, and did not look for the best. That is Friendship”.

I think all the answers which the teacher shared to students are hitting the points you want to know already, but our main point is that we know what is Love already but why we still come up with question why it is very easy to make it but so hard to keep it for last long?

Agreed to word says people’s emotion is not stayed-still and also changed! People always compare their partner with other people as in the story the student did not pick the first grain because one thought that there would be another bigger and better than the first or second one. One changed and came back with nothing. In reality is also not totally different. If you think you have many choices and always try new and new things, you one day will face up to such case.

Surely, finding the person you can go the distance with isn’t so easy. Maybe one of the reasons you find it hard to keep that love alive is because you aren’t choosing the right partner.

The truth is you can’t stay in love with the wrong person no matter what you do. And you can’t stay in a relationship when you aren’t ready to be in one.

Are you ready?

I know it is hardly to talk about love and relationship, but my suggestion is that if you are not ready, please don’t make it because it will affect badly to your everything around you; however, if you are done and well prepared, go for it! Make sure your love one is the right one for you and please avoid comparing with other people mates!!!


Mature enough to have a relationship?

Sound so stupid to ask a question “do you think I am mature enough to have a boyfriend/girlfriend?”!

Love or Single?

Ask yourself first dear!!! Are you ready? Do you want to have a relationship? Did you find your Mr./ Ms. Right yet?

I just would like to share you some points that can help you check yourself out that you are ready enough to have a relationship. It likes a quiz but it is very useful to me already. Personally, I have tried some times and find out that I am not yet really ready to have it. Please follow this link below, it seems to be a fun application game but it is a basic one.

I also have some tips to help you reference that you are OK for dating.

1. Age: it is one among other important factors that can really affect your life. For example, if you are young and studying, it is not recommend to start relationship so early. Sure you will get a sweet and nice relationship at the first time but it will also bring your grades down and mess up the balance in your life without you even knowing it. So why the rush?

No Money No Homey is true?

2. Financial stability: hey you remember the word “No Money, No Honey!”? I agreed with this word! Logically, do you think you are mature and can live peacefully with your partner by spending and depending on your parents’ money? I don’t think so lah. If you are not yet having and independent income and want to go for dating and start relationship, come on! It is impossible my dudes!

3. Time is also the case. No time, don’t start relationship or you will lose your good partner.

There are many other ways to identify the time when should you start and ready for relationship; however, please ask yourself that are you ready for it yet in terms of age, finance, and time…

Just the way you are!!!

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